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I'm at such a funny and exciting season of life (I feel like I ALWAYS say that! But I always mean it!!) There are so many things to look forward to, and we've got ourselves countless memories overflowing out of our pockets as a young married couple.

Most recently, I had a hilarious Easter lunch with my two mothers-my momma and Kevin's mom. They are already so quirky in their own ways, but sometimes I feel like they are especially quirky. I'm not sure how the topic came up, but soon Kevin and I were being tag-teamed against:

"Leigh, it's time for you to start being pregnant. Time is running out and you are getting old." says my very concerned mother.
"Yes, my dear, it only gets harder with each year!" says Kevin's mom.
"Kevin and I want to wait a little bit later before we start trying though. Plus, we're only 24. And I have loans to pay off from school and Kevin wants to get a Masters degree. I also hope we can develop a savings..." I explain, being sensitive to their maternal extincts.
"Well....Mommy has money!" Kevin's mom beams.
Kevin and I just look at each other, and slowly resume eating our food.
I soon focus more on my mom again, "Mom, everyone in our family thought I was too young to get married. Why am I too old NOT to have a baby all of a sudden?"
She evades the question and my Auntie soon defends us. "They need time to enjoy marriage. They've only been married for a year! Travel! Save money. Have fun."
And then Kevin's mom and my mom just stare at her. I have NEVER seen our moms make those faces before, but Kevin and I couldn't hold it in. We were laughing like hyenas in this very quiet and well-mannered Chinese restaurant. Our moms looked at my Auntie like she had grown another head!!! Then Kevin's mom says coolly to my mom, "It's okay. She can have her own opinion. After all...to every action, there is a REACTION." 
This time, my mom was the one laughing. I swear she is STILL quoting Kevin's mom to this day.
Kevin was smart throughout the whole conversation though, because he didn't say one word. But at one point he whispered to me, "I think our moms are more excited for having babies than we are!" We looked at them as Kevin's mom wrote down a fertility doctor's phone number onto a piece of paper and give it to my mom. As we left the restaurant, my mom and Kevin's mom were taking pictures and then she showed me what she wrote onto her daily planner. "My dear, we are praying for you!" and on top of this planner is written, PRAY FOR BABY!

How could I not smile? 

After last week, we've been talking more about what we want for our future. In this present season, Kevin's working full time as an Insurance Claims Examiner and going to school full time and should get his Bachelors degree in Christian Ministries within 2 years. I'm currently working full-time at a Children's Academy in Cerritos and I swear I have the best job in the world!!! It doesn't even feel like work. I love the kids and I love learning how to teach, and how to best lead them.  I'm also a part-time student taking classes. I used to want kids at an earlier age but Kevin's always been about being a dad when he's 26. Kevin's still the same! Here I am being a kook, wavering back and forth about the age I want to be a mom, but he's always so consistent. He must have gotten it from his father. We both decided that 26 is a phenomenal mommy-daddy age. My loans would be paid off by then. We would have saved some money. We both want to be young parents. It's still close to 25 (and we've all heard about that quarter-life crisis!) 26 seems perfect. I still remember back when we were engaged Kevin kept saying he wanted to be a dad at that age. We were eating dinner last night and it dawned on me:

"Kev, this year we will turn 25. That means we will be 26 at the end of next year!!!....If you want to be a dad by 26, that means we will start having to try to have a baby when we are 25. We'll be 25 in less than 4 months. And sometimes it takes a few months to a year to get pregnant. It might take us longer! We have to start trying NOW!" 
I am SUCH a woman. Trust me, I had many more thoughts that did not come out of my mouth because then it would have taken hours to articulate. Sometimes I feel like my thoughts become word vomit. Kevin, seeing our future flash before my eyes, smiles and says, "Maybe we can try when are 26, or later. Whenever it happens, it happens."

I'm sure that when that time comes, we will be happy and joyful and laughing and crying and dancing. We might look something like this: 


We are such a loud and ghetto-fabulous couple!!!! 
I hope our future kids (whether they be biological or adopted) enjoy us as parents. 
Like I said before...there is so much ahead of us that is worthy of excitement :)

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