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Almost-Anniversary

In less than a month, Kevin and I will be celebrating our one year anniversary as a married couple! Praise the LORD! A lot of people have asked us how married life is, and almost instinctively we respond, "It's GREAT!" It's difficult to remember that before March 3, 2012, we lived separately as single individuals and that now, we are one. I can't imagine life without him. We are both pretty excited too, because since it's our anniversary we will be headed to Cabo, San Lucas in two weeks to lounge around at an all-inclusive family-resort (thank you, Travelzoo.com!) I can't wait to say "Adios, Amigos!" and say "Hola!" to everyone over there.

So what has this year been like for me? Let me tell you-it's been a learning experience. I learned a lot about myself and about Kevin. Every couple has their own perks. Let me give you an example...for one, Kevin is very hairy. So our sink is almost always filled with beard or mustache hair. Our bathroom has two sinks so one has been clogged for a while and I have yet to buy some Drain-O. I'm not sure why I want to mention that in this blog, except for the fact that less than ten minutes ago I noticed more hair in the other sink, so both sinks may be in dire need of Drain-O pretty soon.. Could I have foreseen this type of issue before we were married? No way. Girls have to deal with shaving body parts that are below the neck. I guess men have to shave neck-up. So that is still kind of a surprise every few days, a kind of "A-ha! Kevin shaved this morning. Time to clean it...later" kinda moment. Oh yeah, and I realized I'm not as clean as I should be. This can be a pro and a con for Kevin. If I was a type-A, OCD, germaphobe-kind of gal, then his habits would really drive me nuts. But since I am more relaxed, chill, and have a "Yeah we can do that later..." kinda attitude, before we know it, our dishes and laundry pile up too quickly! Sigh. And then I go crazy for a few hours cleaning everything up. Discipline. That's what I need. It's hard when you work full time and try to stay involved in church and try to exercise and cook (did you notice I excluded "and have a social life" from that list?) I may just be making excuses. Or maybe every other woman is better at multi-tasking than I am. Also, I'm so proud of Kev. He lost 10 pounds in the last month! I lost 5 but that's because I hit an all-time high of my weight. So I'm kinda back to my new normal weight, which is still more than it should be. We have gym passes so while I'm acting like Stella, trying to get my groove back in zumba class, Kevin is getting his work out on with all the buff dudes with muscle training and weights. Woo! Look at my ripped hunka-ba-dunk-a-dunk! There's nothing like Kevin lifting some weights with that specific t-shirt that has a hole right where his armpit is.

On a more serious note, almost 8 months ago a drunk driver had hit us and left us with a lot of bills to handle. We have two more bills to deal with, but I'm just thankful we are both okay and not suffering any injuries from that fateful night. I realized that I am very weak in the area of trusting the Lord during tough circumstances, and the main condolence I had was knowing that God is sovereign, and that nothing is out of His control. Every single event in my life is under His control, and everything happens for a reason. I know that I am meant to learn from that incident, and I can say now that I am hopefully going to respond in a more joyful and hopeful way than the way I did after that accident if something unexpected does occur. I had so much anxiety and irritation at the uninsured drunk driver and my circumstances with finances. I was plagued by fear that maybe God would take away Kevin from me. For the first time, I think I can say I am thankful that all happened. Because Kevin and I grew closer and learned a lot from it, and I know God was there taking care of us. God is good... even when  my face is swollen and cut up and my eye is red because I have an abrasion on my cornea.

Additionally, one of the things I struggled with this past year was my health and desiring to be pregnant. It's such a fine line of "Is this my desire" or "Is this a desire given to me by God?" or possibly, both. There's a part of me that is very fearful that God may not ever give us children. It kind of freaks me out in that you-can't-move kinda way. And then I hear a voice that says: "Leigh Ann, calm down, you will probably get pregnant." That voice belongs to a man named Kevin Gausselin. Did I mention Kevin Gausselin is my husband? I think that now that I'm married I'm a lot more aware and sensitive and excited when friends get pregnant. About 4 of my friends got pregnant this past year, and I am sincerely excited and joyful for them! I know that I shouldn't stress, since more women wait until late twenties or early thirties to give birth. For the time being, Kevin says that his dream age for being a dad would be when he's 26. We are both 24 and becoming 25 later this year. It's kinda crazy to think that in a year and a half we will probably start trying to have a baby! Lord willing, we will be parents one day. In the meantime, I'm happy being a wife to the love of my life. I'm so blessed to have him as my husband. I still have a lot to learn but it's nice that I'm learning while laughing hysterically at something Kevin says or does that nobody else finds amusing. I am SO happy and so blessed in this marriage.


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  1. Nice update! I hope you have an amazing time celebrating your one year anniversary at Cabo! Enjoy! And great to hear about working out and losing weight! Keep at it! Lester lost 20-25lbs in one year, just by working out and portion control. Give my regards to Kevin and hope to see you guys soon! :)

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    1. Thanks so much Stace! You're so sweet. And Lester was already at a healthy weight I'm surprised he lost weight...maybe I just didn't see him back then huh haha! Kevin says hi too! Sorry if it takes me weeks to respond we have limited internet at home. I'm actually at my mom's right now :)

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